How do I get more socially savvy



Study: Two thirds of employees consider their bosses to be incompetent

Recruiting: Those who are sensitive have a career

Soft Skills: The Human Factor


Daniel Goleman: EQ. Emotional intelligence (Amazon link)
Why do two thirds of all marriages fail now, whereas a few decades ago it was only half? Why are we increasingly stressed by our work? Could it be because we are increasingly suppressing our ability to use emotional intelligence? The American psychologist and science author Daniel Goleman calls EQ the ability to deal intelligently with one's own feelings and those of others. What does that bring us? A whole lot: Emotionally intelligent people have happier relationships, are healthier and more successful, because feelings not only influence their general well-being, but also their ability to learn.

Eric Adler: Key factor social skills - What we all lack and what we can still learn (Amazon link)
They think they are driving into happiness in the fast lane. Most of the time, however, you end up in a dead end. Because egoists lack an important key factor: social skills.
Anyone who has never learned to treat others fairly, who disregards values ​​such as solidarity and community, makes our society a little colder every day. Eric Adler is absolutely convinced of that. The personality coach from Vienna sees rampant egoism and the widespread lack of social skills as a core problem that threatens to break up social cohesion. And the individual, who gets along less and less with his fellow human beings and himself, makes egoism sick and unhappy in the long run. "Instead of looking after each other, we insist on our right to self-fulfillment, instead of showing interest in our fellow human beings, we put all our energy into our professional careers," writes Eric Adler in his book Key Factor Social Competence. The author sees the reasons for this negative development, among other things, in our declining communication skills, in misleading role models, misguided emancipation and the almost limitless possibilities that our society offers, and the far-reaching consequences of which we can often only poorly assess. But Adler is not only interested in denouncing the negative effects of selfishness. He also offers solutions for change. One of his key messages: social skills can be learned. Based on basic rules, which he calls the "Golden Twelve", Adler provides the decisive guidelines for optimal interaction with his fellow human beings. Its laws of social competence are based, among other things, on responsibility, trust, adaptation and balance. And on self (knowledge). Because: Those who understand themselves and know their own wishes well also have a better feel for others.

German Manager Association V .: Handbook Soft Skills Volume 1 - Social Competence (Amazon link)
“The strength of the authors lies in their ability to present complicated processes and effects very simply and in almost everyday language, without drifting in the slightest into the banal or sluggish. On the contrary, the information is very dense and differentiated, with numerous illustrations and graphics loosening up the text and humorously getting to the point. At the end of each chapter, multiple choice and direct questions encourage reflection and deepening of what has been read. The chapters on communication and body language are particularly worth reading, says and therefore recommends this book to all people who want to improve their social skills. "(, September 2003)

Friedemann Schulz von Thun: Getting along with yourself and others: Communication and social competence (Amazon link)
In a harmonious sequence of stimulating essays, speeches and dialogues, the social facets of communication psychology Friedemann Schulz von Thuns become visible - and not least his person himself. The author of the bestseller trilogy "Talking to Each Other" reports on his roots in Ruth's humanistic psychology Cohn and the talk therapy of Reinhard Tausch. He writes about his experiences as a consultant and highlights views, tasks and the practical scope of his concepts.

Rüdiger Hinsch & Simone Wittmann: Social skills can be learned (Amazon Link)
“Reading this book can be exciting because it helps to unravel encrypted messages and to formulate your own statements more clearly. However, the two authors only demand the art of the possible from their readers: They strengthen self-confidence, help their students to praise themselves, but make no secret of the fact that a little insecurity in dealing with other people is also part of the charm of life "Saarländischer Rundfunk" The authors Rüdiger Hinsch and Simone Wittmann try with their book ›Social Competence One Can Learn‹ to convey precisely this ability without having to attend group training. It is therefore very beneficial that the work is very easy to read. With the choice of words and the detailed and clear representations, it offers successful instructions for learning social skills. ”

Uwe P Kanning: Promotion of social skills in personnel development (Amazon link)
Social skills are one of the key variables in professional success. In hardly any profession you will be able to do without them, because almost all employees must be able to deal with other people in one way or another in a socially competent manner. This book deals with the possibilities of promoting social skills in personnel development. For this purpose, after a fundamental examination of the phenomenon of social competence, numerous development measures are described that are used in personal psychological practice. They range from computer-aided learning programs through coaching and classic behavioral training to outdoor training. The conclusion is a discussion of possible starting points for increasing the efficiency of corresponding funding measures.

Daniel Goleman: Social Intelligence (Amazon link)
The psychology editor of the New York Times has again written an extraordinary book. Topic: Those who are socially competent get through life better. Brain research has long since brought it to light: At the bottom of the brain, people are social and interested in peaceful coexistence. This primal friendliness is disturbed by trauma - from kindergarten to work. So be careful of jealous partners, aggressive bosses and envious colleagues. Becoming aware of this is the starting point for social intelligence.
Goleman is a true master at describing complicated things in a generally understandable way. The American bestselling author shows in his new book that he has mastered this craft. In the preface he promised that “this book will present groundbreaking discoveries from the new research area of ​​social neuroscience”.
That is aptly worded. In the following 500 pages, Goleman guides the reader through the exploration of the human psyche. He virtuously combines the findings from biology, behavioral research, psychology, neurology, primate research, genetics and sex research into a solid store of basic knowledge in these disciplines. He substantiates his thesis - success through social competence - with numerous studies and proves that the human brain is a social being and prefers to be linked to other, like-minded, friendly brains. Smile makes friends.
Humans - and this is Goleman's central concern - can change their behavior if they know and direct their emotions. And he can control his fellow human beings emotionally if he is aware of his own emotional mission. This of course applies to both positive and negative behaviors. Anyone who goes grumpy and grumbling into a meeting will reap the displeasure of their colleagues. On the other hand, those who appear smiling and friendly will create a good mood with their positive attitude, feel better and probably even implement their ideas more successfully. Thankfully, Goleman manages not to disseminate the findings of his work in the form of advice. Since he is an accomplished mediator, he has succeeded in writing a popular science book in the best sense of the word. In terms of approach, he follows his bestseller EQ2: The success quotient via emotional intelligence. Leading the way! Bettina Heimich - This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Bettina Greimel-Fuhrmann (Ed.): Social competence in management (Amazon link)
Social competence is an essential requirement for entrepreneurs and employees in all industries and at all levels of management. In ten chapters, the topic is presented in a practical way for many situations in the company. • Social competence - the competent handling of people in social situations • Gender and diversity management: also a question of social competence • Talking to people - basics of communication theory • Interpreting and consciously using body language • Behavior in and by teams • Informing, motivating and convincing • Conflicts Understanding and actively shaping • Negotiating cooperatively • Moderating workshops and meetings • Stress management The book should make a contribution to coping well with these diverse situations and being able to appear socially competent.

Social skills and soft skills for your success