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“I feel romantic, but I don't want sex”: This is what asexuality feels like

Understanding of the Century: Sex is Complicated. If there's one thing we've learned in the last couple of years it's that the idea of ​​binary sexuality isn't just limiting; it also completely disregards reality. And while we are now more open with the spectrum between heterosexual and homosexual, it seems that we often forget an orientation that does not fit so nicely into our spectrum: asexuality.

Aromantic or asexual: what is it?

Put simply, asexuality and aromanticism refer to people who have no interest in sexual or romantic relationships with other people. Historically, little research has been done on the asexual / aromantic community (also known as the Ace / AroCommunity), partly because it questions what many psychoanalysts have been telling us for so long: that sex is the most essential of all human drives is. (What's up, Freud?)
Thanks to the growth of Ace / Aro communities on Twitter, Tumblr, and Reddit in recent years, local meet-ups and organizations have developed on an unprecedented scale. The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), the largest and most established of these organizations, estimates that around 1% of the world's population identifies as asexual, based on a survey of 195 people in 2004. Around a third of these respondents identified to be trans, non-binary, or gender non-conforming.
So we decided to speak to a few people from the Ace / Aro community to get a better understanding. If we have always been told that so much of the human experience is motivated by the search for sex and romantic love, what is life like when that exact motivation is not there?
So we decided to talk to a few people from the Ace / Aro community to get a better understanding. If we've always been told that so much of the human experience is motivated by the search for sex and romantic love, what is life like when that very motivation isn't there?
Here are five people who tell us what it's really like to be asexual in your 20s and 30s.