Strict parents do rebellious children

Why too strict upbringing
Can harm children

Due to the high requirements with AT THE SAME TIME high secure attachment, children become
  • Strengthened in their sense of responsibility
  • supported in learning to regulate oneself
  • instructed to find problem-solving strategies yourself. This helps them make good decisions on their own as adults
  • supports you in having respect for other people and rules, but also respect for yourself.
  • can concentrate on “being a child”. They don't have to worry about who's in charge because they know who's making the decisions to make sure they're healthy and happy: the parents
  • At the same time, they know that they can always go to their parents with their problems. Have a more secure bond and relationship with their parents. You have a safe contact person - an important emotional protection factor (resilience!)
  • are more empathetic, friendlier and more warm-hearted
  • tend to have fewer social problems with their peers, get along better with educators and teachers, and be more popular in kindergarten / school
  • Because of their socio-emotional competence, they are more resistant to pressure from their peers or other children and have a lower risk of becoming victims of bullying (but also the bully)
Segrin, C., & Flora, J. (2019). Fostering social and emotional intelligence: What are the best current strategies in parenting ?. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 13 (3), e12439.
Higher chance of getting depression:
Liu, Y., & Merritt, D. H. (2018). Examining the association between parenting and childhood depression among Chinese children and adolescents: A systematic literature review. Children and Youth Services Review, 88, 316-332.
Higher chance of seeing violence as "normal":
Landon, B. G., Waechter, R., Wolfe, R., & Orlando, L. (2017). Corporal Punishment and Physical Discipline in the Caribbean: Human rights and cultural practices. Caribbean Journal of Psychology, 9 (1).
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