How can I help my dying father

Accompanying the dying: What relatives can do

A dying person depends on the accompaniment of his relatives. In addition to professional nursing care, a person needs support and support from his family on his final journey. Support from relatives is particularly important when death does not occur suddenly, but creeps in on it. So you can support your loved one to the end, you can take away their fears and show them that they don't have to go the last way alone. End-of-life care means final care for your relatives.

How you can empathize with your dying loved one
Caring for a family member at the end of their life is a sensitive and responsible task. So that care for the dying does not become an unbearable burden for you and your relatives, it is worthwhile to deal with the dying process. Where should your loved one find their final resting place? Who would your loved one want to see one last time? These are questions that you as the accompanying family member should clarify.

Recognize and cope with the phases of dying
It is also important for you as a family member to recognize the various stages of death. These range from repression (the dying person suspects his imminent death but does not accept it), anger and anger (the dying person struggles with himself and tries to fight his illness), depression (the dying person gives up on himself and wants an immediate end of life) and finally the acceptance of death (the dying accepts his near end and finds inner peace).

Some dying people do not manage to overcome the individual phases on their own. Relatives can help here by helping them through the individual stages.

Coping with the last few hours together
How do you behave towards a dying person in his final hours? It is important that you do not leave your loved one alone. Stay with him, speak well to him. These are the moments when it is difficult to find the right words, but try to make your loved one feel that they can "walk" calmly and freely.

If your loved one can talk to you, listen to them, let them talk for as long as they want. Avoid using phrases like "everything will be fine". Remember that the dying can still hear and understand every word. So avoid secret conversations with other relatives that could burden the dying person.

Let your loved ones feel you are close to you. Physical contact, such as holding hands, calms your loved ones. Stroke the hair of your loved one and give them a feeling of security. Understanding, empathy and security are the best consolation that relatives can provide.

Pay attention to your own relief
Accompanying a dying relative is a great emotional burden. It is therefore important for you that you do not have to carry this burden on your shoulders alone. Try to involve other people in the dying process. Which family members help you with terminal care? Are there any close friends?

Hospice helpers or nursing services also offer caregiving relatives support with terminal care. Conversations are often very relieving. So try not to eat into your grief. Be open and speak up about your worries and fears.

The closest circle of the family is the most important support for your loved one on their last journey. So that this is not bumpy but easy to master, the cohesion and presence of the family are the most valuable support.

Created by: Curendo editorial team. Even if we try to ensure that the content of this blog is always up to date, the articles always reflect the status on the date of the update. This article was last updated on March 17, 2014.